Finding the best version of you is the journey of life. When you can sit back and say, I feel complete and content will probably be much later in life, but let’s enjoy the journey, with all its trials and tribulations. Let’s celebrate our differences and praise our commitment to becoming better versions of ourselves. For me, I think I will always be striving to be a better version of myself, but liking who you are is the key to happiness, and it doesn’t need to take a lifetime to get there.

We are bombarded these days with advice on how to live the perfect life and be the best version of ourselves; but the fact is, we are all totally individual and what’s best for one, isn’t best for another. And actually, most of the time we’re doing ok,  the best we can do – or at least feel we can do. So anything I write about here is purely based on what works for me. I write it in the hope it will inspire you and others who may read it, or at least encourage you to look at different areas of your life and run a quick reality check of your own. We all need to do that sometimes, let’s face it. We can tell ourselves that we’re ticking along quite nicely, thank you very much, but it’s not always the truth, it’s often what we want the world to see. Other times, we just hit a wall and can’t figure out why we feel unfulfilled and unsatisfied. Then there’s the guilt that comes along with that, ‘I have so much to be grateful for, why do I feel like this?”

Social media feeds in to that projection of self. It’s story telling, but not always in its truest sense. So, let’s dig deep and audit our own lives without getting caught up in other people’s. Just focus on what you need and what makes you feel good. If you don’t know and you’re still trying to figure that out, then it’s kind of a process of elimination really; but asking yourself a few honest questions as you go along will certainly help; and starting with ourselves is the only way to make positive change in our lives. 

Here are 10 Questions to kick-start your personal audit and hopefully get you thinking about your life – what’s good, what needs to change – and encourage you to be brave and make those changes, if that’s what’s needed. If you are entirely happy with your world and everything about yourself, you’ve clearly been living on an ashram for years and are as evolved as a Buddha! I envy you. I still have a way to go, but this helped me and the journey has to start somewhere.

• When you wake up in the morning, do you feel energised and motivated for the day ahead? If not, what is it that crushes that motivation for you?
• When making plans with friends do you feel like they’re things you ‘should’ be doing and hope to enjoy, then when it comes to it, wish you hadn’t committed to them in the first place?
• What simple things each day make you feel connected and really content in your life?
• How often do you do a good deed for other people and what are your reasons for doing it?
• When you think about your work, do you feel fulfilled, challenged and progressive?
• What hobby/ies do you have that you couldn’t live without and why?
• What is your ‘go-to’ thing to do when you need ‘Me Time’ and how does it nourish you and make you feel?
• What/who do you need to let go of, that’s not serving you well or helping you grow as a person?
• What do you need right now that you’re not getting?
• This time next year, what do you want to have achieved/done?

Most of us are a ‘work in progress’. But that’s a good thing – progress is always a good thing. Want to know what I did to become a better, happier version of me? Then read my blog ‘ My 10 Steps to Becoming a Happier Me’. I hope you can find some inspiration there.

So, I’ll sign off with…..Stay true and learn to love YOU.